The student media organization of California State University Northridge

Daily Sundial

The student media organization of California State University Northridge

Daily Sundial

The student media organization of California State University Northridge

Daily Sundial

Got a tip? Have something you need to tell us? Contact the Sundial

Loading Recent Classifieds...

Stressful schoolwork could eliminate strong relationships

Attempting to pursue a serious relationship while taking 15 to 17 units is nearly impossible. For many college students, dating is non existent.

Throughout my glorious years at CSUN, I have encountered a multiple array of potential mates.

Still, college students share a common thread when it comes to dating: a lack of time. Since many students work two jobs and carry a heavy workload, finding time to devote hours to another human being besides family is daunting.

Working hard

Since CSUN is known as a commuter campus, and most students who attend this university live all over Los Angeles County, finding an individual to date from your city to avoid another long commute could be frustrating.

Many a time, I was interested in dating someone I met in one of my classes. That idea was a bust. He lived more than an hour a way from my home. This commute and my hour-long commute to CSUN were too long for me. C’est la vie.

CSUN students come and go from their classes, manage several internships and at the end of the day many students travel an hour south or north home. Most CSUN students are tirelessly dedicated to graduating within five years – with their fingers crossed – so the amount of time one needs to dedicate to a possible romance is a distraction to their regime.

Love, Love, Love

Meeting a love interest in the college setting is possible. The most common place to meet a potential romance is the classroom. As much as students proclaim to be studious, and refute the notion of love to remain heavily committed to the wild and crazy life of a single college student, when the first day of the semester comes one always considers two things: “I hope my classes are easy and the professor doesn’t assign homework,” and “I wonder if I will meet anyone that I could be sexually attracted to.” Just like the first day of classes after winter break in elementary school when children sport the new clothes they received as gifts for Christmas, college students come also decked out in their finest clothing for the first day of classes hoping to attract or spark some interest.

One Needy Pal

With every passing semester, students meet in class become friends, exchange numbers with promises to call one another “during winter break,” but never make a call. A friendship is as difficult to maintain as high-maintenance, romantic relationships. Many individuals rely on a need-based friendship or relationship. These individuals grow angry when a phone call goes unreturned. These friend types become upset when the other person in the friendship shares their time with another. If you have little time to spare, ending these types of friendships is the best option.

The pattern is clear: College + ambition = no time. College students who could juggle a friendship, romantic relationship, school and job should be applauded.

Veronica Rocha can be reached at

More to Discover